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I once heard a saying “Women marry when they are in love, Men marry when the time is right”

I think it is very simplified by for the most part its true.  I hear from women all the time saying that they love their boyfriends and their boyfriends say they love them in return, but there is no sign of a marriage proposal.  I have loved a few women, but love is not enough to get me to marry a woman.  In fact I have had ex-girlfriends try to trick me into proposing to them, but a man needs more then love to make him want to propose.  While there are a number of factors, there are two key ones I want to focus on of this article.

1) A man will usually hold off until the time is right.  Most men will not propose to a woman when they are down on their luck.  A man feels like if he can not provide for and protect the woman he loves then he shouldn’t get married.  Its just not the right time.  If a man can not handle or take care of his own life, how will he be able to take care of the woman he loves.  In fact, marriage is just a constant reminder how he is not good enough.

If you love this man, he treats you the way you deserve, and you want a future with him don’t give up on him.  All he needs is to be in a place where he feels like he can protect you and provide for you.  Telling him that, that doesn’t matter to you, will not resolve this problem.  The only way you can overcome this situation is by getting him on his feet and in a position in life where he feels like he can be that kind of man for you.  Saying “I support you no matter what” doesn’t mean anything with a man.  You need to roll up your sleeves and give him the physical support that he needs.

If he is lacking sales for his new company, get out there and get him some new clients.  If he is spending all his time working on tiny side jobs instead of focusing on growing his business, take over doing some of those smaller jobs.  He isn’t happy with his job, redo his resume and show it to him so he can see how you see him and how proud you are of his accomplishments.  Most guys undersell themselves on resumes especially when they are feeling down.  A great self esteem booster is when he sees how you truly see him.  Once he is feeling confident, throw down some jobs that would be perfect for him. He needs to go back to school, but isn’t sure how he can get by, if he reduces the number of hours at work while he goes to school.

This brings me to my second point of what a man needs to get married, its true the right time is essential, but I hope you can tell he also needs a partner in life.

2) A Life Partner.  Most men understand that love tends to fade, and during rough patches love tends to evaporate.  What a man needs to see is that the woman they are with will be a partner.  A man has a ingrained desire to provide for and protect his wife, will she give him the physical support he needs to be the man he needs to be.

A marriage is about two people coming together and moving through life as one.  If a woman is only focused on her life, her job, her appearance, her hobbies, etc.  Then he is going to feel a little reluctant to want to commit to marriage, because when a rough patch hits your lives will you give him the support he needs or will you leave him.  A woman saying “I support you no matter what honey” mean nothing to a man.  He needs to see the physical support to understand you are his life partner.  To learn more about how you can show him you are the one.

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

Sep
28

One Reason Why Men Marry

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I know that marriage is supposed to be about falling in love and wanting to spend the rest of your life with the person you love.  Therefore, if your boyfriend loves you he should automatically want to marry you.  Well I’m here to tell you, love is only one of the reasons why men get married.

One of the big reasons why men marry is because the person they are with is an amazing partner. Let’s look at some of the things that make up a good life partner for a man:

  • A partner is someone that works with them to create a life. A future that they both can enjoy and look forward to living each and every day.  Not just someone who is pretty and believes they are special.  There are lots of beautiful women in this world and everybody is special because we are all unique.  At least that is what they taught us in elementary school.
  • Someone who supports him no matter what.  Its easy to find a person who is willing to support someone during the good times.  Ask yourself, you would be willing to stay and support him, If he lost his job, had no income and was completely bankrupt?  Would you be willing to support him both financially and emotionally?
  • Are you a calming, relaxing and loving environment to be around?  Work is a constant source of stress, so coming home to you is supposed to be a calm environment where he can re-energize for the next day.  If you are a constant emotional roller coaster, that is a complete drain on him, there is a large chance he will not marry you.
  • Do you help to make his life easier? Do you give him the support and helping hand he needs to achieve his goals? This does not mean he should not help and support you, but you need to look at whether you really give him the helping hand he needs.  The simplest way to do this is to look at whether his life is easier with you in it or if it is easier for him to be single. Would he have more money in his account without you?  Would he have more time to focus on his business, hobbies or the things he really enjoys?  Would he be less stressed?

These are just a few of the factors that make up a good partner and will influence him to look at marriage more seriously.  There is one thing I continuously hear in every speech a successful man gives and that is “I would not be where I am, if it was not for my loving wife.”  Love didn’t help to get the man to where he is. It was the fact that his loving wife was an amazing partner who helped support him in doing what he needed to do to succeed.  She was that extra helping hand that he needed.  She was the partner in life, that he had been looking for.

Partnership is something every man looks for and needs in a marriage. Learn how to talk to your boyfriend about getting married

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

Jun
28

Can Fading Romance Stop A Proposal?

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I read some research a while back that identified the lifespan of romance.  From a survey of fifty thousand couples, researchers had concluded that the romance in a relationship died after two years, six months and twenty five days.  That’s right; paying off that new car could last longer than the special feelings you and your spouse-to-be share.

It seems incredible to a couple freshly in love, but the numbers don’t lie.  After less than three years the rush of endorphins and emotions that feels like fireworks in your stomach now will have slowed to something considerably less impressive.  Probably more akin to gas.

According to the research, after just that long more than half the women surveyed stopped wearing makeup for their significant other.  Even more were un-inclined to dress to impress, preferring to wear track pants or pyjamas around the house.  Men fared no better.  After the new-relationship buzz faded, nearly three quarters were content to leave dirty laundry laying around.  The days of the hurried clean-up to look good were long gone.

It’s no surprise really – those heroic efforts to make a good impression can only last so long.  They happen because we are fuelled by a fizzing mix of emotion, novelty and hormones.  What it means is that we need to make sure the relationship that develops is based on something more significant or there will be a gaping vacuum when the sparks finally fade.

Some friends of mine explained to me how ‘empty nest’ syndrome feels.  When their last child headed off to college, they looked at each other and said, “Now what?”  If they hadn’t deliberately invested time and energy in each other – in developing interests and activities that they enjoyed and that created real intimacy – they would have been lost.  If their whole relationship had devolved to be about their kids, they would have found themselves alone in the house with a stranger.  It’s the same with the outset of a relationship.  Without working on some genuine ways to get to know one another beneath the whirlwind of burgeoning love, there may be little there to sustain you both when the novelty wears off.

So if you really want a fairytale ending, forget the fairytale.  It takes more than flowers and butterflys every time you meet to make marriage work.  Find out who you really are and where you really connect, and build on that.  That way, in about two years when he leaves the toilet seat up again, you will love him regardless. Learn more ways on how to keep the romance in your relationship

Sincerely,

Dan Kelly

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Paul’s Thoughts

A loss of romance can definitely stop a man’s plans for a proposal cold in its tracks. As Dan said “According to the research, after just that long more than half the women surveyed stopped wearing makeup for their significant other.  Even more were un-inclined to dress to impress, preferring to wear track pants or pyjamas around the house.”

When a man sees women dressed to impress with their hair done, makeup on and an outfit that knocks their socks off, it can be a real let down to see your partner with no makeup, hair in a bun, glasses and sweat pants on.  Does this motivate him to propose? No it doesn’t.

Now don’t get me wrong at this point men are not doing much in the romance department either, so they are just as much to blame.  The difference being who is it that wants a proposal.  If you are wanting your boyfriend to propose, you need to dress to impress him at least three out of every six times that you see him. (I know he should love you for you, even without makeup on, but being politically correct is not what motivates men)

I don’t mean seeing him after you come from work and you look nice.  I mean dressing up with the specific idea of catching his eye.  The thing you have to keep in mind is that you are still competing with every other woman until the both of you are married.  If you want him to propose that means you have to keep his attention on you and away from other women. The best way to do that is by dressing to impress him.

Just take a look at a few examples of celebrities with makeup and without makeup.  We all have good days and bad days. The problem is when all your boyfriend sees are bad days, he can forget how truly beautiful you can look.  He needs you to constantly remind him.  Looking your best isn’t the only key to stepping up your romance, but it is a start.  Here are more ways to on how to be romantic to get your boyfriend to propose

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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May
16

The Wedding Secret

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I know and understand that having a dream wedding is important for every woman. Making sure that your wedding is memorable and special is crucial for that little girl inside a woman. Feeling like she is a princess for one day is a dream come true.

I must admit I love watching wedding shows on tv. I like seeing that magical moment created from beginning to end. There is one thing I see in these wedding shows and that is the wedding is all about the woman. It seems that nobody really cares if the groom even shows up.

These brides want red carpets, horse drawn carriages, massive rings, giant flower arrangements, massive banquet halls, and then things get strange with circus performers or stunt acts.  I could write an entire book on the crazy things some women come up with for weddings to make them unique.

What these brides are forgetting is that a wedding is supposed to be the public declaration of love between two people. To let all friends and family know that they are committed to each other “until death do us part.” It is also a time to let your partner know that despite all the people in the world, that you choose them. To make your partner feel your love and to show your love in front of everybody. To scream your love to the world.

Do you understand why a man would become hesitant about getting married as the price rises and things become more and more extravagant? Of course, If a man loves you he wants to make the wedding day special for the woman he is marrying.  At the same time the groom wants he to feel loved and special on his wedding day as well.

A guy doesn’t need the giant ten foot cake, the $50,000 banquet hall, or a horse drawn carriage to feel special. To feel special a man needs to have your love and attention on his wedding while being surrounded by friends and family.

When you are thinking about, talking about and/or planning your wedding with your boyfriend always remember to ask yourself is this about making you (as the bride) feel special or for the both of you to feel special. If all your focus is on you and making you feel special, don’t be surprised when your boyfriend begins to get cold feet. Planning your wedding is a huge decision and if you are going to be selfish in this decision, its probably just a sign of things to come. No man wants to be with a selfish woman. If he thinks that you will be selfish in every major decision the both of you will have to make together, then chances are good it will scare him off the idea of getting married. For your wedding focus on expressing your love for him and not just seeing what you can do to make you feel more special. This is key to getting your boyfriend to be excited about getting married.

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

May
06

Are You Encouraging A Proposal?

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I don’t know how many guys I know who used to be golfers, or drive motorsports, or enjoy fishing or weekly poker games.  What I know is that there is a distinct theme amongst them – somehow they have drifted away from something they loved doing.  Oftentimes that also means drifting apart from friends and circles of support and encouragement too.

It is a cliché – and an unfair one at that – to suggest that women drag men away from their favorite pastimes.  However, it is true that once a relationship begins to develop, things change as priorities get rearranged.  This goes for both parties, as men and women begin to rank time spent together above those things they traditionally did.  However, sometimes one party can influence the other to a greater extent and soon the concessions begin to be one sided.

If this is the case in a dating relationship, it just makes sense that it will only continue and possibly amplify in a marriage.  What that means is that if a guy is feeling pressured to start giving things up, or if he is noticing some absences that are beginning to bother him, he may well put the brakes on further relationship developments while he decides whether he can live with the changes – and the direction they are taking.

What a woman in these circumstances needs to do is communicate her awareness of the changes going on and make sure that she is sensitive to how they are affecting him.  If he knows that she cares, and is not deliberately trying to divorce him from old friends, he will feel less concerned and it won’t become a conflict of interests.  In fact, it may help him clarify his own priorities in terms of the relationship and cement his commitment.  Certainly the communication and a willingness to compromise will only benefit the relationship.

So ask when he last met up with the guys or has had a chance to get back to his old hobby.  And see if he wants to go next week.  He may not want to, or may jump at the chance, but either way you are dramatically improving the odds that he will want to spend more time around you, too.Learn what you can do to get your boyfriend to start thinking about marriage with you

Sincerely,

Dan Kelly

Mar
15

Why Won’t He Propose To Me

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Women always ask themselves one question whenever their boyfriend doesn’t seem that interested in getting married, “Why won’t he propose to me?” As with many things that we face in life, most people tend to look at it from their own point of view.  A woman could been in a relationship for 3 years, and the relationship doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.  Not to mention the window for having children is closing and the guy doesn’t seem to be motivated to start a family.  All any woman would want to know is why he won’t propose, but he refuses to even talk about marriage.

I’m sure some of this sounds a bit familiar.  The problem that is not being addressed is that there are two people in this relationship.  I’m going to go on the assumption that if you are wanting him to propose that he must be a decent guy, who takes care of your needs. So with that in mind, while you are thinking “Why won’t he propose to me?” what you should be asking yourself is “Why would he propose to you?” Instead of just thinking about marriage from your point of view, try understanding marriage from his. You need to honestly look at yourself and your relationship.  Ask yourself what do you as the second half of this relationship really bring to the table?

When a man is dating a woman, he will look at his relationship and ask himself “Why would I propose to her?”  The simple answer to that question is are his needs as a man being met in the relationship.  I know that doesn’t sound very politically correct, but just as a woman must have her feminine needs met, so does a man.  If his needs are not being met, there is no motivation to get married.

You see, if his needs are not being met 2 or 3 years into the relationship, then that means (in his mind) that 10 or 20 years later his needs are definitely not going to be met.  Why get married now to someone who doesn’t give him everything he wants, when he could potentially meet someone who will meet all of his needs at any time.

There are two things you must understand:

1) A man will stay in a relationship that he is not completely happy with. He will wait to see if someone better might come along.

2) A man will never tell you that he is dissatisfied with the relationship and he will say he is perfectly happy if you ever ask him.  Why? Most women get extremely angry when a man says he is not satisfied, so its best to lie and avoid the argument.

One of the best ways to motivate a man into marriage is to show him that you can satisfy his needs.  This does not mean you have to cook and clean 24/7, become like his mom or service his every desire.  Just as you need your feminine desires and needs taken care of, so does he need his masculine needs taken care of.  Remember this is a partnership, since your here I’m going to guess he does a good job in taking care of your needs.  I on the other hand, have never met a man who was with a woman who took care of all of his needs and refused to marry that woman.  I have met lots of men who refused to marry a woman who did not think of a man’s needs, but was overly concerned about getting married. Before you blame him for not wanting to take the relationship to the next stage, maybe you should be asking yourself if you have motivated him enough to want to get married. Discover what a man needs in order to get married

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

paulwright@decodingmen.com

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Feb
13

Valentine’s Day Proposal

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Valentine’s Day has come.  A day when a couple is supposed to go that extra mile to show their partner how much you love them.  What way would show you that your partner loves you and cares for you more then anything else, then to have him propose marriage on Valentine’s Day.   It’s true some people might find it a proposal cliche, but if a woman has been waiting years for a proposal this could be the ultimate show of love.

What happens when another Valentine’s Day comes around and the woman receives another bouquet of roses, some cheap chocolates and a hallmark card.  She might become a little frustrated, bitter, resentful or angry.  Maybe she might become a bit of all.  Who can blame her, after being so patient and perhaps putting in so much more thought into her Valentine’s gift then he did. To go another year without a proposal can drive a woman mad.

Before you go mad and start yelling at him, first consider this:

You Can Not Blame Him For Your Feelings

All your feelings come from you.  He can not make you upset, you make yourself upset.  You become upset because he didn’t do what you wanted him to do.  Just because you may have wanted him to propose on Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean he will.  To become angry about that is like becoming angry that the world does not spin in the direction you want.

If you start yelling and screaming at him because he didn’t propose not only will you ruin your Valentine’s Day, you are going to scare him off from ever wanting to propose to you.  Men don’t see that you are upset about not being proposed too, they see that the subject of marriage gets you upset.  What do they do in the future, just avoid any subject or idea of marriage because it will just get you upset.

What Kind Of Gift Did You Give Him

Men want and need romance just like women do. If you want your man to know you love him and you want to get married, then you have to show him.  Many of Valentine’s Day have men creating elaborate dates, but receiving nothing in return.  Men get two messages from that:

1) His entire relationship is probably going to be him putting in effort and receiving nothing back. What man wants to be with a selfish woman?

2) She probably doesn’t care that much.  Why would a man propose to a woman that doesn’t care?

Other Valentine’s see a man receiving flowers, chocolates and mixed tapes with different love songs.  Men are not women, we need to be romanced in different ways.  Giving your boyfriend, flowers and love songs for Valentine’s just shows him that you don’t really know him.  Again a man will not propose to a woman that doesn’t know him.

If Your Boyfriend Gives You Nothing

Before you get upset, take some time to calm down. Then sit down with him and in a very calm manner explain to him why you like to celebrate Valentine’s Day and why it upset you that he did not think of you on such a special day.  Explain to him your feelings, don’t blame him for them.

When a man receives the type of love and affection that he craves and needs in a relationship that is what will help to speed up his decision to propose. This may not cause him to propose on Valentine’s Day, but it will get his mind focused on that goal.  If you want to learn how to convince your boyfriend to propose go here ===> How To Get Him To Propose

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

paulwrigth@decodingmen.com

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Feb
01

Why Men Hold Off Getting Married

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We have all seen it, very few men are eager to walk down the aisle.  I’m sure you have thought to yourself or talked to many of your girlfriends about it. Why is it that men are so hesitant to commit to marriage? Why do men always seem like they want to wait when it comes to marriage?

There are a couple of reasons why most men are not overly eager to jump on the marriage train.

1) Everybody Man Or Women Wants To Marry The Best Person They Can

It is human nature to find the best (genetically strongest) partner you can.  Women do this and men are no different.  Men want to marry the best woman they can.  They never know when they might run into her.  In fact that super model, who makes lots of money, loves to cook and take care of her man and just so happens to love short funny looking men, might coming walking around that corner any minute.  If the man is married, he will miss that chance.

It may seem silly to you, but in the back of every man’s mind is the possibility that something better could be just around the corner.

2) A Man’s Stock Goes Up As He Gets Older

There are a few things that most women value in men and that is stability, security, maturity and confidence.  Young men do not have any of these qualities. For the most part when it comes to attracting women many younger men are ignored. All young men know, that their value to women will increase as they get older.  As they get a more stable job, start making more money, have a place to live and establish themselves more in life.

If these theories hold true from the man’s point of view, then he is better off waiting.  There is no need for a man to rush into marriage. If he waits until he is more stable and secure in his life, he will be able to attract a better partner.  Committing too soon to marriage will only limit his potential for finding the perfect partner.  Time is on the man’s side when it comes to marriage.

The only time a man will rush into marriage, is if he believes he has found the greatest woman in the entire world and he doesn’t want her to get away.  The great part is any woman can do this.  All she needs to do is show him, that perfect woman he has been waiting for is actually standing right in front of him.  There are specific cues, and ways of talking that will signal to him that the wait is over.  Now he just needs to get her down the aisle before anybody else.

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Sincerely,

Paul Wright

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Jan
17

Setting The Bar For A Proposal

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Some people like to tell the stories about their relationships.  You know the ones – how they met, the first date, the proposal.  I tend to stay a little quiet on the last one, as it is a source of embarrassment for me.  You see, if someone asks how I proposed to my wife, she is quick to jump in and point out that technically, I didn’t.  It wasn’t that she did the deed; I just did a lousy job of it.  After a night out where we had discussed the future of our relationship, we were still talking as we drove home.  Sensing what we were on the verge of deciding, but unsure if I was reading it right, the conversation went like this:

Me: So would you?
Her
: What?
Me: Marry me.
Her
: Are you asking me?
Me: I think I am…
Her
: STOP THE CAR!

I am ashamed that I didn’t do a better job, and she regrets not replying with, “Maybe you should ask me and find out!” but it’s in the past now, and happily the marriage is going better than the proposal.  But for many guys, the idea of proposing comes with a lot of baggage.  Hollywood hasn’t helped us by painting the picture of lavish gestures and extreme declarations of eternal love.  Honestly, most guys would love to book the Air Force Display Team to sky-write our proposal, but it is unlikely to happen.    However, if we think that we are expected to do that, then we’re probably going to stall the whole process while we think through who we know with access to jet fighters.  If we feel that there is some great pressure to do something outstanding, then we may just avoid the exercise altogether rather than risk messing up something that is seen to be so important.

This means two things for women waiting for that vital question.

1) Moderate your hopes and expectations by the realities of your relationship.  You don’t have to toss out every thought of romance; just don’t set the bar too high.  Let your man know that this moment is one you want to remember, but also that it doesn’t need to make the front page of the New Yorker as well.  If he is not in the top wage bracket, don’t dream of balloon flights or weekends in Paris.  Similarly, if he isn’t the sensitive sort, poetry and moonlit dinners in the desert are unlikely to happen either.

2) Remember that the proposal is a means to an end.  What matters isn’t how spectacular the occasion is, but what it signifies.  If he is asking you to marry him, what will matter in five, ten or fifty years is the relationship that came about through it, not what was happening when he asked.

Most importantly, communicate this stuff to your guy.  If he is under the impression that you are waiting for him to sign-write the moon, he will break out in a sweat whenever marriage is discussed.  However, if he knows what you really find important is having a beautiful relationship, with an amazing life together with little concern about how to get there, then the pressure will be off and the possibility that the wedding will be on is that much higher.

There are ways to help a man realize that he has nothing to worry about and that he should feel completely secure within your relationship to take the next step ===> Getting Him To Propose

Sincerely,

Dan Kelly

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If you have ever been in a long term committed relationship for a number of years, eventually you will begin to think about the idea of getting married.  For most women the confusion comes from the man in their life.  He just doesn’t seem to be interested or motivated in moving the relationship forward. Even though you may want to get married, you have to remember it takes two to walk down that aisle.  So if a man has no interest in ever getting married to the woman they are with, why do they even bother staying in the relationship?

Well its true a man will stay in a relationship even if he knows its not going to go anywhere. To understand why you have to understand how men think and how they view relationships.

Three common types of long term committed relationships men have:

1) He is in a very unhappy relationship. He doesn’t get along with his partner or maybe his needs are not being met. Either way he is not happy, most guys will leave the relationship, some guys might actually stick around just for sex on a regular basis.

2) He is in a very happy relationship. He is in love, his needs are being met, he feels respected and appreciated in the relationship and has absolutely no complaints. His girlfriend inspires him to be a better man and this makes him want to get married to this woman and spend the rest of his life with her.

3)The third type of relationship for men is in between an unhappy relationship and a very happy relationship. He is happy enough to be in a long term committed relationship but not happy enough to make it a permanent part of his life.  Basically he is just comfortable in the relationship and too lazy to make any changes.  There is nothing inspiring him to make a change.  Right now he is in a holding pattern, he is waiting either for things to change in the relationship for the better or he is waiting for someone better to come along that will inspire him to leave the relationship.

At this point in the relationship it isn’t so bad where he can’t stand spending time with you and needs to end it.  At the same time he isn’t happy enough in the relationship to want to commit to you for the rest of his life.  Remember the rest of his life is a very long time.  He needs to be inspired into a big decision like getting married.

So why would a man stay in a relationship if he doesn’t plan on getting married? Well first you have to understand its not that he hasn’t planned to get married, its that he has not been inspired by the relationship he is in to want to get married. Also take into consideration that just because you might be really happy in the relationship does not mean he is.  As I stated before he might not be that happy in the relationship. If he is not happy in the relationship, he will definitely not want to propose.

Why would he stick around?

Hope, fear and sex. Most men genuinely hope that even if they are not in a perfectly happy relationship that something will happen that will change to make it better.  Does this mean he will change to make it better probably not but he is waiting for something.

Another factor that plays on his mind is that he might not be able to find a better partner.  Men can be afraid that they will remain alone for the rest of their life.  He might be staying in the relationship just in case he never finds a person that is a better match.

Lastly is sex.  Yes a man will stick around a relationship that is going nowhere and isn’t that amazing if it means he can have regular sex.  If he breaks up with you then it means no sex.  For many men, having sex in an unhappy relationship is far better then not having any sex.  Not to mention, its just much easier and more comfortable to stay in the relationship.

Now this is not the reason why all men are in relationships, but if you have been in a relationship with your man for a number of years and he has absolutely no interest in getting married, then the problem is he has not been inspired enough to make that decision.  If you want to learn more on how to get inspire your partner so he wants to get married and believes it was his idea all along check out ===>How To Get Your Man To Want To Marry You

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

paulwrigth@decodingmen.com

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