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Aug
19

My Cousin’s Wedding

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Last weekend my cousin had a beautiful wedding to her boyfriend of 2 years.  It was a Big Fat Greek wedding, with lots of people, food and dancing.  It was really nice to see and I hope my cousin and her new husband will have all the happiness in the world.

The funny thing about the wedding was my brother was asked to MC the reception and the bride and groom asked that the time allocated to the speeches be limited to only 20 minutes.  That doesn’t mean 20 minutes for each person, they only wanted 20 minutes for all the speeches.  When my brother told them this was unrealistic, they conceded and felt 25 minutes would be more realistic.  Well after all the heartfelt speeches had been completed, the total time had run into the 2 hour range. Hopefully it didn’t throw off their plans too much.

Long gone are the days when the father of the bride, best man and groom speaks.  Now everybody seems to want to have a speech at a wedding these days.  At this wedding the father of the bride, best man, two maids of honor, a good friend of the bride, a good friend of the groom, a few friends of the family, and some single people shopping for potential mates all had a chance behind the microphone.

There was one speech that made a really good point and that was by the father of the groom.  He said “Love is when a man and woman become one.  The trouble starts when you try to figure out which one.”

I really liked that because I do see that a lot in current relationships.  In the beginning everybody is madly in love and happy that they are one with their partner.  Then as time goes on, people try to figure out who they are in the relationship and start trying to re-establish a new identity and want their partner to mold into this identity.  Its the forcing a partner into a new identity that they never signed up for.  Keep an eye out for this because forcing a man into a new identity is not something he is going to like.  If he asked you to marry him, its because he is happy with the way things are now!  Change that and he might not be so happy.

One good idea that my cousin had was to have the wedding cake made into cupcakes, so they wouldn’t have to cut the cake.  Everybody could just take a cupcake and better yet have different options chocolate or vanilla, depending on what people like.

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

 

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Mar
02

Why Won’t He Talk About The Wedding

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Why is it that once the decision to marry is made, the relationship sometimes becomes less harmonious, rather than more?  Two words cover it I think: Wedding preparations.

I would like to share a secret about us guys.  Generally speaking, we cannot tell the difference between Spanish White and Old Ivory.  Or beige.  Or off-white.  Or egg shell.  In fact, if a color doesn’t appear on a football jersey or traffic light, it may as well not exist.  Asking us to make a distinction between two variations of white is probably not going to work out, and expecting us to care that there is as difference is even less likely to succeed.  So when it comes to broaching the subject of wedding plans, hoping your man will get involved in choosing the paper for the invitations is going to end in frustration for both of you.  While he will make every effort to show an interest, for many guys it is exactly that – an effort.  Such a situation can lead to stress for both parties, when she feels he doesn’t care about the preparations, and he doesn’t get what the big deal is about paper anyway.

What is really happening has little to do with how much anyone cares, but with how they operate.  Most guys are ‘headline’ oriented and not particularly detail minded.  We usually focus on the big picture, considering the major points of action but not really spending a lot of time dotting ‘i’s or crossing ‘t’s.  We are problem solvers at heart and will want to work out logistics, but not aesthetics.  So the color of the paper is irrelevant to us.  However, if someone was to ask us to work out the cheapest and fastest way to distribute the invitations, then our attitude would be completely different.  It is about recognizing the different strengths you both have and playing to them.  If he is interested in deciding the flowers for the altar arrangement, by all means include him.  But if not, why would you put him through that?  Instead, enjoy the freedom to do it yourself, or with Mom or your girlfriends.  Come back to him with your preference (he will likely agree) and then maybe you can hand over the problem of ordering and arranging delivery to him.  Whether it is invitations or transport, his attention will be best held by logistics and need, rather than details and decoration.  Don’t hold it against him, just recognize the inclination and work with it.  You may well find that instead of bumps in the road, the preparations actually make things smoother both leading up to and beyond the wedding.

Sincerely,

Dan Kelly

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Dec
23

Happy Holidays For 2010

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I just wanted to wish everybody a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.  Here is to a brighter and more prosperous year for you and your loved ones.  Don’t worry about trying to get your boyfriend to propose during the holidays.  This will just add unwanted pressure and make things uncomfortable between the both of you. Something that is not going to convince him to make that decision. Instead enjoy the holidays and remember to share your love with each other.

Sincerely,

Paul Wright

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